Here are some beliefs that you need to be able to open yourself up to in order for our little seeds of self-love to plant themselves firmly inside of you.
If you can start to open yourself up to these beliefs then you can definitely start to open yourself up to self-love and self-love is just like so much more than this buzzword or gimmick that you hear on social media, self-love is unconditional love. So let’s get started with the beliefs.
Number one: every single person on this planet deserves self-love. Every single person with all their imperfections, with all the things that frustrate them about themselves, with all of The good- The bad -The ugly! Every single person deserves it and once you open yourself up to this belief, it means that you have to believe that you deserve it too.
The second belief is your body already unconditionally loves you. she unconditionally loves you, she protects you at every tiny situation, every tiny possibility of hurt that there is. Your body is there to protect and love you. she loves you more than you love yourself, she loves you more than she loves herself.
What do I mean by self? Well you’ve probably heard of your higher self, some people call it the “one that is conscious and sees your own thoughts” so I’m talking about your inner self, your soul, the actual place inside where your true personality comes from where there are no holds on your past or your future- it’s you right now. It’s the being in the human being.
Often I will talk about how your body loves you and when I talk about your body I mean your physical body, your physical self. It’s your brain, your mind and your subconscious because these are all parts of you that really really love you, that have your best interests at heart but are scared of change and scared of you getting hurt. They basically are just scared of you getting hurt over everything and that’s why they constantly trying to protect you!
Say you’ve got some past trauma, your body would rather feed you alcohol everyday to numb down the emotions because she knows that dealing with emotions would hurt you, even though when you use an alcohol everyday to numb down your emotions it will eventually hurt her so she would rather take that pain and pressure on herself in the long run rather than risk you feeling pain right now.
So if we believe that for your entire life your body has unconditionally loved you and protected you at every point then basically all of the destructive things that you’ve ever done comes down to the root that your body is trying to protect you. This means that your body is deserving of respect and unconditional love too and sometimes she’s going to need protecting from herself! That’s one of the absolute core beliefs that I have, that that allows me to have empathy and compassion for myself.
Which leads are song to belief number three empathy, compassion, acceptance and commitment are the four cornerstones of our self-love. Without those 4 things you cannot have self-love!
So the empathy and compassion go hand in hand to help you be kinder to yourself, kinder about your past mistakes, kinder about your future mistakes because you’re going to make them! kinder about being imperfect because that’s what you are, you are imperfect and that’s OK! They also help you understand yourself better but from a kind, gentle place.
Acceptance is not apathy. acceptance doesn’t mean that you’re never going to want to change or grow. Acceptance means that you’re able to love yourself in this moment, love yourself Messy because you need to be able to accept and love yourself right now! Then you can go on to thrive and grow in a really organic way. We all know that the more positive your surroundings and your encouragement, the more likely you will succeed in life and yet we walk around with this horrible voice inside our head, constantly putting us down, constantly being negative and expect ourselves to be perfect! We expect ourselves to want to better ourselves every day but when we’ve got a horrible voice inside your head kicking off and being a right b**** then why would we want to be feeling better or getting any better? So acceptance is very important.
The last one is commitment and commitment means that it is a daily commitment to Love Yourself. It’s a daily commitment because if you forget for a few days you can slip back. Self-love is like a relationship, and you can neglect a relationship! So at first when you get to know someone, you actually have to get to know them to fall in love with them, it’s the same with self-Love, you have to get to know yourself and then you have to appreciate the great things about yourself and accept the imperfections. Then after you fall in love with someone, it doesn’t mean that it’s rosy for the rest of your life, it’s not a happy ever after at the end of the story! It takes commitment every single day to put in the work for the relationship in order to keep the love alive and keep it growing. Again it’s exactly the same as self-love you have to make a commitment every single day so that is definitely part of the cornerstones of self-love.
The next belief is that worthiness is a given. It is a birthright. Worth is a birthright. There’s nothing that you need to base your worth on accept your “isness” Your worth just is a is.
The last belief we’ve going to look at is that not only is every single person worthy of self-love, but they are also worthy of the abundance that comes after you find self-love! You’ve got to be open to getting so much more because as soon as you open yourself up to self-love, you start to believe in yourself, you start to believe in your dreams, you start to have the confidence to do the things to change things!
That organic change that we spoke about before, all the sudden there’s a lot of things that are going to be in your reach and that can be scary and that can send your body back into protective mode again but it’s about allowing yourself to know that:
you’re worth the abundance
you’re worth the change
you’re worth the risk
you’re worth following your fear
We speak a lot about fear because fear comes up every single day and you may need to open up your daily commitment and start to allow more commitments to come in because once you realise you love myself, then you start to believe in myself you can move past this fear and constantly tell your body that she’s safe and that you can cope with whatever comes up. Then you start to believe that you are worthy of your dreams and everything that’s possible!
As with everything in life you can decide to learn the basics and it can affect your life in beautiful ways or you can dive in much deeper and have it change your life forever! If you commit to just 4 minutes a day, it will have such an amazing impact on you but if you want to dive in deep further who knows where it will lead you- the possibilities are endless!
If you’re interested in learning more about daily commitments and the miracles that can happen, then head over here to join us for 44 days of Self-Love in January.